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What to Do When You Feel Stuck

September '17

Sometimes at midlife, your days no longer bring you enough pleasure. Perhaps your job doesn’t excite you any more, but what else can you do? Maybe your last child has left the nest and you can’t imagine how to fill the empty space. Or possibly you simply don’t find your life satisfying, but feel lost as how to change it.

Stuck is not a pleasant place to be — especially if you’re action oriented and love the feeling of accomplishment. Wouldn’t it be great to wake up one morning and see a clear path into a fabulous future with every step mapped out? Wish it worked that way, but it doesn’t. Transitions take time, and a new vision for moving forward rarely arrives immediately.

However, as you embark on the inner journey required to map a more meaningful future, there are some steps you can take right away. They all involve spending time learning to take care of yourself. If you’re like many women you’ve spent years attending to the needs of others. Now is the time to focus on your own needs. The book I’ve been writing provides a program for such a focus. I’ve almost finished Midlife Magic: The 7 Day Self-Care Plan to Boost Your Energy and Make You Smile, and I thought it might be fun to give you a sneak peak.

On each of the 7 days, I introduce you to a new self-care skill as you follow me on my own midlife journey around the world bumping into the self-care skills I needed to establish for myself. Then you find an overview of how to develop the skill presented each day and finally you take action by selecting one of ten possible action steps.

For example, the self-care skill for Day 5 is Nurturing Environment, where you learn how to create surroundings that satisfy your soul on a daily basis. Part of the HOW-TO section to is clear away the “things” around you that no longer bring you pleasure. One option you might choose from the TAKE ACTION section is to, “Sit on a couch or chair in your living room, look around, determine what you love and then mark each item that needs to leave in some way with a sticky note. Tomorrow you can continue this exercise by removing those items you no longer love. Perhaps you pile them in the trunk of your car to take to the Morgan Memorial. On the following day you might drop them off. In other words, you go step by easy step until the job is complete. So let’s go!”

What about you? Would some fall clearing bring you renewed energy and a happier mood? In what ways do you already create a nurturing environment for your daily life? Love to hear from you.

Enjoy these beautiful autumn days!




  1. Julie cusmariu said on September 30, 2017:

    Bonnie it’s so good to read your wisdom.
    Thank you. I look forward to hearing more self care strategies. CFL days seem long ago and yet….Greetings and love, Julie

  2. Bonnie said on October 1, 2017:

    Hi Julie! Lovely to hear from you! CFL (Coach for Life) was indeed along time ago and yet… we are still privileged to use the skills we learned there. Hope all is well with you and yours. Bonnie

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