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Time for a Life Reset?

June '10

Every so often a motif wends it way through my weekly coaching. Last week when a third client touched on the same topic, I realized it might be worthy of more than an individual focus. The subject that drew my attention might be described as a yearning for a “life reset.”

Regardless of whether these clients were looking for a job, expanding their role on the job, or just completing a big project at work, they were ready for a time-out and even pondering a life make-over at a deeper level. With endless “to-do” lists, a feeling of never enough time, and decreasing daily joy, all these women were craving down time.  When they thought about taking it, they felt guilty, yet if they considered ignoring their wish for a respite, they anticipated exhaustion.

Vacations are great, and summer is a wonderful time for them, but the weariness I heard required more redress than a one, or two-week breather from the daily routine.  What I sensed is that these women wanted to reset the very way they experience life.  They wanted to go about their business and still be able to enjoy periods of rest without a lurking sense of what is left undone.  At the end of the day, they longed to feel energized, not drained.

One way to look at resetting the way you live is to use the metaphor of breathing. When we complete one task and move onto the next, and then onto the next with no pause, it’s like constantly breathing in with no time for an out-breath.  For calm and contentment to prevail – not to mention good health – we need that out-breath to be fully experience what’s in front of us. This kind of full engagement gives us energy rather than depleting it.

Perhaps it’s no surprise that bringing ourselves to the moment at hand is central to so many religious philosophies, as well as current methodologies for coping with stress. The pace of change in our world is accelerating at a breath-taking (note that word) rate. Focusing on the present moment may be the only effective means of managing this faster and faster advancement.

You may have already developed ways to pause and treasure the present moment – a practice which allows you to realize what you want at that exact second, whether it’s on your task list or not.  For me, the wonder of nature occasionally slows down my over-active brain, and enables me to touch base with my Self.  For example, yesterday morning, I grabbed a pair of binoculars to get a closer look at the great blue heron perched on the big rock in the middle of the cove outside my back window. After this glimpse of natural beauty, I felt calmer, and breathed more deeply. Somehow my next task just seemed easier to execute.

Have you noticed a recent desire on your part to reset your approach to life? And what ways have you found to pause and connect with that deeper Self? I’d love to hear about your experiences, and so might some other folks!

Happy Summer,


  1. Mary Gottmann said on July 10, 2010:

    Just want to cheer for your words on the accelerating pace of change and focusing on the present moment as the only effective means of managing it. Truly, the rate of change is exponentially increasing, and as Neale Donald Walsh says in “When Everything Changes, Change Everything,” staying in the present moment lets us flow with change, not battle it.

  2. Bonnie said on July 11, 2010:

    I haven ‘t read his book, “When Everything Changes, Change Everything.” Sounds like a good one, Mary!
    Thanks for the reference!

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