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In Pursuit of Self Care

May '08

Someone asked me the other day how my “small-changes-add-up” approach to making New Year’s resolutions was working out. Her comment prompted me to check my January newsletter where I outlined a plan to add meditation to my daily regimen. I’m happy, and quite frankly surprised, to report that I’m still meditating twice a day.

My success to date can probably be attributed to the support of my brain. Our brains are great friends in helping us carry out small-change intentions, because the more we do something, the more cells our brains assign to that task. I like to imagine that my brain is eagerly deploying more cells to keep me in that gentle, relaxed alpha state as a result of my daily meditation.

This kind of self-care pursuit is particularly important, if you‘re in the process of reinventing yourself at midlife. You may not know what you want to do, or what direction you should take, but you can be certain that it will be advantageous to exercise self-care. A methodical regimen, which provides a focus on yourself in order to strengthen your balance, wellness and quality of life, becomes an absolute requirement when you’re on a transformational journey.

Self-care can be exercised in many different facets of your life. For example, if having all your files properly organized creates a feeling of calm for you, go to it! (But be sure to begin bit by bit.) Or, if digging in the garden gives you a general sense of wellbeing, why not pick up a trowel on a regular basis?

A number of my clients run each morning before work to keep themselves “sane”, while others make time for creative work, like painting, that just plain “makes them feel great.” The nature of self-care is different for each individual, but if you’re in the midst of a busy life with the additional stress of a major change looming on the horizon, it becomes a real necessity.

Perhaps you would like to add a new self-care practice to your repertoire. If so, make it small, make it regular and make sure it‘s a practice that will add to the quality of your life. Remember your brain will support this kind of effort! Meanwhile, I’m headed for the garden to plant that Salvia Argentia I bought at the Organic Farmer’s Market yesterday.



  1. Mary said on June 1, 2008:

    Dear Bonnie,

    Again, you have taught me, through your self-care essay. I am going through another of my not-well times and feeling frustrated at the amount of time which must be devoted to self-care. Thank you for reminding me how vital it is. Love, ZenMary

  2. Maria said on June 2, 2008:

    Hi Bonnie,
    I love your thoughts on how to relax and take life one step at a time. I am in the process of many changes and I need so much to stop and take care of me. I am going to have a whole summer to reorganize my life and make those important changes that will make the rest of my life meaningful and happy.

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